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What’s an “internet wife” anyway?

Posted by Cyn | Posted in News | Posted on 25-10-2008


Police allege man murdered by internet wife's ex-husband

It's the headline that bothers me. Just at a glance, I'd think that the murder victim had an online-only relationship with his "internet wife," like those people whose MMORPG characters or Second Life avatars get "married." But, no, he met the woman on the internet, and married her in reality after her divorce from the previous husband was final.1

I've seen people refer to those who meet online and have a meat-world relationship this way before, but it's annoying. If you meet someone on the internet, and the two of you marry, is that woman an "internet wife" and that man an "internet husband" forever?

By that logic, people should have bar, school, church, and gym spouses too, yes? My mother has a baseball game husband. My sister has a golf course husband. I think my brother met his wife at work, so she's his work wife.

Now, if I thought people would follow this naming convention to its logical conclusion, and have multiple spouses, it wouldn't be quite as annoying. Somehow, though, I doubt that brother is going to acquire a rugby wife or some such.2

Anyway, the headline should have read something like "Police allege man shot by wife's jealous ex-husband" (I'd prefer active voice, but it seems they don't).

1 No details are given as to timing, or whether she left for the new guy.

2 Wait, do women play rugby? I've never met one who did. Hmmm.

Not Dead Yet

Posted by Cyn | Posted in politics | Posted on 26-09-2008


I’ve been almost whol­ly AFK1 for a bit, due to feel­ing even worse than usu­al. I’ll be enter­ing “make-up posts” tonight to catch up. Usu­al­ly, I’d do them in order, but this one is too top­i­cal for that.

I real­ize that McCain has claimed to have already won the pres­i­den­tial debates tonight. Wow, his truthi­ness is spec­tac­u­lar­ly crap­py, isn’t it? But for those who plan to watch any­way, FactCheck​.org has a nice lit­tle Debate Spin Anti­dote. It’s worth the few min­utes it takes to watch it.You might find the FactCheck Wire handy dur­ing the debate, too.

1 Away From Keyboard

Random Linkage

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Links | Posted on 13-09-2008


In lieu of a real post, which would require actual thought…

New Elizabeth Bear short story: The Girl Who Sang Rose Madder

Ruminations on science fiction, fantasy, etc.: Asking the Wrong Questions

Dr. Horrible recast with My Little Ponies


Posted by Cyn | Posted in Relationships | Posted on 12-09-2008


Ten years ago today, Sam took me out on our first “real” date (as in, with­out the kids or any­one else). Thank you, love. Here’s to many more decades!

Between Naps

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Health, Reading | Posted on 12-09-2008


I gave in to my body and stayed in bed all day yesterday. It helped. If I'm not trying to do anything else, I can take my breakthrough pain meds and muscle relaxants. They make me too floppy to walk around safely or use dangerous tools like butter knives.

I'm doing pretty much the same today, but wanted to post an update. Not that there's really anything much to talk about, other than napping.

I have continued to read when I'm awake, thanks to Sam's willingness to go to the library to support my habit. I finished the first four books in Eileen Wilks' World of the Lupi series. I think book 4, Night Season, was better than the first three. The focus switched from one couple to another in this book, and both of those people were definitely growing and changing—always a plus in my mind.

I did finish Caitlin Kittredge's Pure Blood, but it was a close thing. The main character is a whiny, immature brat who blames everything on the fact that she's a werewolf. The other weres in her world don't seem to have such poor control over themselves, so that just doesn't wash. She's also stupid, constantly running off into dangerous situations without letting anyone—like, say, her fellow police officers—know so they can back her up.

I finally got my hands on Hands of Flame by C.E. Murphy, the last book of her Negotiator trilogy. It was wonderful! All the important threads from the series were tied up, including some that I'd thought merely background. There are five Old Races living silently among humans in Murphy's universe, and I love the way she avoids most of the clichés about them. I would like to have seen a few more shades of gray in the portrayal of one race, in particular, but all in all she did a very nice job. It's easy to imagine many, many more stories in this universe, focusing on new characters.

I haven't decided what to read next. Sam was so enthusiastic about Halting State by Charles Stross that I might switch over to science fiction for a bit. It really depends on how well I'm able to comprehend it—Stross' writing is really good, but more challenging to the reader than any of the urban fantasy/paranormal whatsis books I've been dawdling over.

Meme: Reincarnation Placement Exam

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Humor, Memes | Posted on 11-09-2008


Your result for Reincarnation Placement Exam...

Gypsy Camp

59% Intrigue, 44% Civilization, 66% Humanity, 59% Crowded, 33% Busy.

You sing! You dance! You flee from the authorities!

You were a bit difficult to place, because you like civilization and humanity -- but when it comes to work, you don't really fit into the system, the ruts and the rituals, that modern civilization embraces. You like your own ways... your old ways.

We've placed you among a hardy Gypsy family. They'll have you plucking a violin before you can talk, and dancing before you can walk. The road is your home, and your horses are members of your family. You get to wear lots of shiny things.

We expect that you'll have a good life. Even if your people are surrounded by a world where they don't really fit in, they have each other, an oasis of compatibility in an unbalanced world. We know you'll make the most of it!

Take Reincarnation Placement Exam at HelloQuizzy


Posted by Cyn | Posted in Health | Posted on 10-09-2008


How do you crack a rib with­out even know­ing it? Damn. At least, we think that’s what’s wrong. And it isn’t going any mag­i­cal­ly, dangit!

I guess I have to go to the doctor 🙁

It Burns!

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Kvetching, Reading | Posted on 09-09-2008


I was reading Eileen Wilks' Tempting Danger and mostly enjoying it, until I hit one of the sex scenes. And then, she wrote something like, "This time adagio,1 rather than fortissimo.2"

There wasn't one editor or proofreader with any musical knowledge? Those are very basic terms.

Of course, at one point a character's name changes from "Therese" to "Josefa" with no explanation. And while I won't swear to it, I'm pretty sure that the organization called "Church of the Redeemer" had a different name at one point ("Church of the Exalted" maybe).

1 Meaning "slow, leisurely tempo"

2 Which means "very loud"


Posted by Cyn | Posted in Movies | Posted on 08-09-2008


We’re watch­ing Hog­fa­ther. It is insane­ly, delight­ful­ly silly.

Review: Rogue by Rachel Vincent

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Reading | Posted on 08-09-2008


Rogue Rogue by Rachel Vincent

My review

rating: 2 of 5 stars
I am officially annoyed. I want some kind of law, or at least an industry standard, that requires publishers to label any novel that doesn't tie up all its little plot threads in ONE volume. This is one that would definitely have that label, as we're left waiting Important Things on the very last page. Blech.

It takes a lot of talent to write good poetry, to compress meaning into those few, perfect words. Writing short stories is, again, something that requires skill, talent, and discipline. Novels give the author more leeway, and the best, in my opinion, are those that are pared down to the essentials. More and more, I see the serial novel as the mark of a very undisciplined writer. I like series, certainly—as long as each volume can stand on its own merits, enjoyable without having to read several other books. Ms. Vincent is nowhere near that level of professionalism.

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