What I Believe

A while back, I attend­ed a three-week “Get­ting to Know UU” dis­cus­sion group for those who are con­sid­er­ing join­ing a Uni­tar­i­an Uni­ver­sal­ist con­gre­ga­tion (and I did join the con­gre­ga­tion). At the begin­ning of the meet­ing, we were all asked to intro­duce our­selves and explain how we arrived there—sort of a brief spir­i­tu­al auto­bi­o­graph­i­cal sketch. I don’t think I’ve ever tried to present it as a log­i­cal A to B jour­ney before or even think of it that way. Still, as it often hap­pens, answer­ing some­one else’s ques­tions taught me things I did­n’t real­ize I knew.

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I’d already been med­i­tat­ing on just who I am, what I believe, and what I want to accom­plish in this life. How would I want my daugh­ter and oth­er loved ones to remem­ber me if I died today? What would I want them to know about what I thought, hoped, believed, wished for, and why? I find that being a par­ent makes me far more con­scious of time and of plan­ning for the future than I was before.

I don’t think some things can be ade­quate­ly expressed through words. They must be con­veyed through behav­ior. Still, my words are an essen­tial part of who I am, and I feel some need to express my beliefs through them. By pub­lish­ing them, per­haps I’ll find like-mind­ed souls with whom to strike up a dia­logue, or maybe they’ll at least pro­voke con­tem­pla­tion in those who read them. I do not claim to be wise, nor do I claim to express any eter­nal truths. My beliefs and val­ues have evolved through­out my life, and I expect them to con­tin­ue to do so as long as I exist—I abhor stagnation.

Do not believe in any­thing sim­ply because you have heard it. Do not believe sim­ply because it has been hand­ed down for many gen­er­a­tions. Do not believe in any­thing sim­ply because it is spo­ken and rumored by many. Do not believe in any­thing sim­ply because it is writ­ten in Holy Scrip­tures. Do not believe in any­thing mere­ly on the author­i­ty of teach­ers, elders, or wise men. Believe only after care­ful obser­va­tion and analy­sis, when you find that it agrees with rea­son and is con­ducive to the good and ben­e­fit of one and all. Then accept it and live up to it.—The Bud­dha on Belief, from the Kala­ma Sutta

So…I was a pagan when I wrote many of the arti­cles on this site, but over the years, I’ve evolved into an agnos­tic athe­ist. That means that I don’t claim to absolute­ly know whether there are or are not any deities (although I find it extreme­ly unlike­ly that there are), but I do not believe that any exist. I’m also a Uni­tar­i­an Uni­ver­sal­ist. No, there isn’t a con­flict between being UU and athe­ist or pagan. It isn’t easy to explain what being UU means in a cou­ple of words, as there’s a lot of diver­si­ty with­in our asso­ci­a­tion. We’re a non-creedal reli­gious group. What we do agree on is expressed in the UU Prin­ci­ples and Pur­pos­es. The UUA Book­store has a rather nice arti­cle that’s also infor­ma­tive, Who We Are. Beyond the prin­ci­ples and pur­pos­es, you’ll find Chris­t­ian, Jew­ish, Bud­dhist, (obvi­ous­ly) athe­ist, and pagan UUs. I’m also a sec­u­lar human­ist and a skep­tic.

I believe that every­one has the right to deter­mine their own beliefs and the free­dom to fol­low the path those beliefs dic­tate. Groups like the Moral Major­i­ty and the Chris­t­ian Coali­tion are wel­come to their views, but the fact that they try to impose those views on every­one else is absolute­ly wrong. That’s why I got involved with the Greater Atlanta Inter­faith Alliance. It’s also one of the rea­sons I’m a Uni­tar­i­an Universalist—because it per­mits me to be part of a com­mu­ni­ty of faith that wel­comes and affirms peo­ple of all paths. Being UU gave my child expo­sure to those paths in a pos­i­tive way. I want­ed her to have the infor­ma­tion to make a ful­ly informed deci­sion about her path when she was old enough to do so. I did not make my par­ents’ mis­take of try­ing to force her to fol­low my path.

I believe that for every right, there is a corol­lary respon­si­bil­i­ty and that only a fool tries to exer­cise one with­out ful­fill­ing the oth­er. In terms of belief, that means ques­tion­ing every­thing. If you believe what your par­ents believed, what­ev­er you were raised in, and have believed through­out your life, you prob­a­bly just inher­it­ed your reli­gion as a habit. You may have got­ten your polit­i­cal views the same way, and I’m not going to take you very seri­ous­ly. There’s a say­ing among Chris­tians that “God does­n’t have any grand­chil­dren,” but few con­sid­er that to its fullest because they were indoc­tri­nat­ed into their reli­gion as small children.

Polit­i­cal­ly, I believe that tax­es are the price we pay for civ­i­liza­tion. My def­i­n­i­tion of a civ­i­lized soci­ety is one in which there is sound infra­struc­ture (roads, bridges, air­ports, util­i­ties, etc.) and a rea­son­able degree of safe­ty so that ordi­nary peo­ple can walk down the streets with­out wor­ry at any time. The basic human rights and free­doms of speech, reli­gion, pri­va­cy, bod­i­ly auton­o­my, edu­ca­tion, health­care, equal­i­ty of oppor­tu­ni­ty, rep­re­sen­ta­tive gov­ern­ment, the pur­suit of hap­pi­ness, and so on must be guar­an­teed. I think that chil­dren, the elder­ly, and the dis­abled should have a decent stan­dard of liv­ing pro­vid­ed for them. A robust social safe­ty net is an inte­gral part of a civ­i­lized society.

I think every­body has the right to deter­mine what they do with their bod­ies, includ­ing what they put in them. I hap­pen to think it’s too stu­pid for words to put sub­stances in your body that cause you to lose con­trol of your­self. I also think the “war on drugs” is an excuse for the gov­ern­ment to chip away at our free­dom, and I’m whol­ly against it.

I believe that because I exer­cised my right to bring a child into this world, I was oblig­at­ed to ful­fill my respon­si­bil­i­ties by pro­vid­ing for and edu­cat­ing her until she was an adult and doing my best to see that she grew into a respon­si­ble adult. I believe that being a par­ent is both one of the great­est rights and one of the most immense respon­si­bil­i­ties any per­son will ever expe­ri­ence. I’ll admit to being judge­men­tal about peo­ple based on how they par­ent and their chil­dren behave. I choose not to spend time with peo­ple who don’t par­ent well because their chil­dren are gen­er­al­ly lit­tle mon­sters. I real­ized some time back that I don’t “like” chil­dren any more than I “like” any oth­er par­tic­u­lar group of peo­ple. I enjoy the com­pa­ny of intel­li­gent, well-behaved peo­ple and don’t like to be around noisy, rude, or will­ful­ly igno­rant peo­ple no mat­ter how old they are.

I judge peo­ple by their words, deeds, and abil­i­ties rather than by their appear­ance, ances­try (race, eth­nic­i­ty, etc.), gen­der, or sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion. I ask that the same fac­tors be used in judg­ing me. The entrenched big­otry of the church­es in which I was raised was one of the biggest rea­sons I left all orga­nized reli­gion for many years. I refuse to be part of sex­ism, racism, homo­pho­bia, trans­pho­bia, anti-intel­lec­tu­al cam­paigns, or to be asso­ci­at­ed with any orga­ni­za­tion that pro­motes those evils. I believe that laws that exist sole­ly to enforce reli­gious stan­dards on those who do not share those reli­gious beliefs are inex­cus­able and ludi­crous. Pro­hi­bi­tions against mar­riages between con­sent­ing adults of any gen­der and Geor­gia’s ridicu­lous sex laws are just two of the exam­ples that come to mind immediately.

I believe that the more love one gives to oth­ers, the more you receive. I don’t know if Spi­der Robin­son said it first or was quot­ing some­one else, but as he said, “Shared joy is mul­ti­plied, shared sor­row is divided.”

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