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What I learned from my past relationships

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Relationships | Posted on 09-05-2006

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So I actu­al­ly heard from some­one via Orkut. I can’t remem­ber if that’s ever hap­pened to me before or not.

Any­way, I went to check out this person’s pro­file, and real­ized mine was way out of date. Some­day, I swear, I’m going to repro­duce all the ques­tions all those dif­fer­ent places ask right here on my own site, keep that up to date, and refuse to fill out any oth­er pro­files.

Any­way, one of the fields was “From my past rela­tion­ships I learned…” I found the ques­tion more inter­est­ing that most, so I’m repro­duc­ing my answer here, expand­ed a bit.
from my past rela­tion­ships i learned: Some­thing dif­fer­ent every time 🙂 A few of them:

Hon­esty is the only way to relate that’s worth both­er­ing with.
Love isn’t enough.

Com­mu­ni­ca­tion is price­less.

Rela­tion­ships take lots of work from every­one, and some­times they just aren’t sus­tain­able.

Sex is often the canary in the rela­tion­ship mine. Bar­ring health issues that make sex impos­si­ble or unlike­ly, a decrease in sex­u­al inti­ma­cy is usu­al­ly due to a decrease in over­all inti­ma­cy, which is Bad.

There’s no under­stand­ing crazy. Just walk away with as much of your san­i­ty intact as pos­si­ble.

Nobody deserves abuse.

Stay­ing togeth­er is sel­dom “best for the kids.” In fact, I’ve yet to see a sit­u­a­tion in which it was best for any­one.

There’s no way one (sane) per­son in a cou­ple or oth­er group­ing is hap­py if the oth­er is mis­er­able.

If some­one changes in a big way right after you get mar­ried, start try­ing to get an annul­ment. He isn’t the per­son you thought you knew.

While an adult can lie to you eas­i­ly, his kids can’t. Nei­ther can his pets. If either doesn’t behave con­sis­tent­ly with what she says, or she doesn’t treat them the way she says she believes in rais­ing kids or pets or what­ev­er, she’s a liar. Leave before you get any clos­er.

Some things are worth the pos­si­bil­i­ty of a bro­ken heart.

“If you real­ly loved me you’d…” means that the speak­er is an abu­sive ass­hole try­ing to get you to do some­thing that’s unhealthy for you.

Play­ing togeth­er is essen­tial. So is work­ing togeth­er.

Peo­ple are not projects.

Knights are noto­ri­ous for set­ting up new tow­ers with you inside them. The only safe “res­cue” is the DIY ver­sion, where you just walk out of the prison

What are yours?

A Day in the van

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Education, Family, Homeschooling | Posted on 08-05-2006

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And it was, tru­ly. Which is why this looks much the same as it did last night.

Katie and I drove all over metro Atlanta, test­ing out the new wheels in the process. A med­ical appoint­ment, a trip to the bank, the post office, our mail drop, a craft store, a school sup­ply place, a cou­ple of book stores, Phoenix & Drag­on, and some­thing I know that I’m for­get­ting.

You wouldn’t believe how much “home­school­ing” gets done on the road. Had the deal­er had a van in stock with a DVD play­er installed, I could eas­i­ly have jus­ti­fied it for pure­ly edu­ca­tion­al pur­pos­es. As it is, I’m glad my lap­top has a DVD play­er, as we find var­i­ous BBC and PBS series pret­ty good sup­ple­men­tary mate­ri­als at times.

No AV mate­ri­als today, though — just books, paper, cal­cu­la­tor, and a lot of dis­cus­sion. Sci­ence, alge­bra, world his­to­ry, crit­i­cal think­ing, Eng­lish, vocab­u­lary, cur­rent events…

Oh! We got our Latin texts! Katie and I have decid­ed to start study­ing Latin togeth­er this sum­mer. I’ve always regret­ted not hav­ing had a chance to study it, and it can only help her. So here we go!

The girl got some knit­ting done in the car while we talked, too. As she gets more con­fi­dence in dri­ving, I look for­ward to get­ting some stitch­ing done while she dri­ves. On the oth­er hand, she’d get few­er lessons done. Hmmm.

I need to study to try to keep a lit­tle bit ahead of her. We’re going to have anoth­er blog where she, Sam and I post about our learn­ing adven­tures. It isn’t quite up yet, unfor­tu­nate­ly.

Namaste,

Cyn

Learning curve

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Blogging, Geekery, Homeschooling, Relationships | Posted on 08-05-2006

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Did HTML ever seem this intim­i­dat­ing?

The array of themes avail­able for Word­Press is absolute­ly over­whelm­ing, but I am a stub­born cuss. I want MY OWN theme. Of course, cre­at­ing one is not triv­ial, because I haven’t actu­al­ly learned CSS or XHTML yet. I’ve done just fine with my rusty HTML skills, since I haven’t been able to work out­side the home or done any heavy web work in years.

Oh well — I have a rea­son to learn now!

Please be patient 🙂

Well, here we are

Posted by Cyn | Posted in Blogging, Geekery | Posted on 08-05-2006

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The dawn­ing of a new age!

Okay, just the begin­ning of a seri­ous redesign. Yes, Tech​noMom​.com has final­ly joined the blog brigade. I was chang­ing hosts and decid­ed to make big­ger changes at the same time. Most of the old con­tent will be back before long, but right now you’ll find things a bit sparse.

If you’re new ’round here, wel­come. It’s a very infor­mal place. Check out my pro­file. I’ll be post­ing about all man­ner of things, and will enjoy hear­ing from you.

Namaste,

Cyn