What’s Private for You?

Web 2.0 is all about shar­ing and col­lab­o­ra­tion. There have been lots of sto­ries late­ly that have shown some­thing of a back­lash against that shar­ing, point­ing out how over­shar­ing makes us easy tar­gets for crim­i­nals, talk­ing about cyber­stalk­ing, etc. That’s not where I’m going. I’ve found myself think­ing recent­ly about what peo­ple don’t share, about what, […]

About Depression

Peo­ple who haven’t expe­ri­enced seri­ous clin­i­cal depres­sion are sel­dom able to under­stand how dif­fer­ent it is from “being down” or “the blues,” those dips every adult human has felt at some point. They’re often judg­men­tal, and see those who are severe­ly depressed as being of weak char­ac­ter. I’ve had one such per­son apol­o­gize to me for […]

Thought-Provoking Quote: Mignon McLaughlin

It’s impos­si­ble to be loy­al to your fam­i­ly, your friends, your coun­try, and your prin­ci­ples, all at the same time. ‑Mignon McLaugh­lin, author (1915-) It makes sense to me in that you can’t have four “num­ber one pri­or­i­ties.” Even with being loy­al to my fam­i­ly, my daugh­ter comes first, then my part­ners, then my fam­i­ly of […]

What to Say?

A friend just post­ed one of those “anony­mous con­fes­sion posts,” enabling anony­mous com­ment­ing and dis­abling IP address log­ging. I nev­er have any­thing to say in those threads. I can’t think of any­thing that I would­n’t just say as me. I don’t hon­est­ly care to read any­thing that some­one would­n’t stand behind as them­selves, either. What […]

Revisiting the April Divilbiss Case: Alternative lifestyles and encounters with the state

A nice lady wrote to me recent­ly, pro­voked by my post about our DFCS expe­ri­ence. She wrote about it on her blog, too. The Divil­biss case was a top­ic of con­stant dis­cussing in forums relat­ed to polyamory back in 1999. Lov­ing More mag­a­zine and oth­ers raised mon­ey to pay the fam­i­ly’s legal fees. The assumption […]

Self-Interview Questions

Tak­en from star­wolf. My answers aren’t near­ly as poet­ic as hers. silenceleigh wrote a post about the inter­view she gives to new char­ac­ters she’s thought of. It’s more inter­est­ing than most of the inter­view memes, so I’m going to use it. If you do the same, please let me know so I can read your answers, […]

Community Building

I run a mail­ing list for peo­ple in Geor­gia who are inter­est­ed in cre­at­ing com­mu­ni­ties, cohous­ing, etc. It’s a fair­ly pri­vate list, as it grew out of our home­school­ing group. We don’t adver­tise its exis­tence and are always rather sur­prised when some­one from out­side the HSing group asks to join. Any­way, one of the mem­bers’ wives […]

Navel Gazing

How do I rec­on­cile treat­ing peo­ple with respect with enjoy­ing snark­ing at them when I think it’s deserved? Damn. I’m not sure that I can. Do I have to give up the snark? It’s pos­si­ble that I should always com­mu­ni­cate with ozar­que’s guide­line about nobody los­ing face in mind. Hmph. There are times when this whole […]

Responding to Verbal Attacks

ozar­que said some­thing in her jour­nal that I’ve been think­ing about: There is a metaprin­ci­ple for the entire Gen­tle Art of Ver­bal Self-Defense sys­tem which says that in ver­bal con­fronta­tions and dis­agree­ments your goal is that there should nev­er be a loss of face on either side. That applies to every tech­nique, and is intrin­sic to […]

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