Woof

Brezs­ny’s words to Scor­pios for this week:

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): “At the inner­most core of all lone­li­ness is a deep and pow­er­ful yearn­ing for union with one’s lost self,” wrote Irish play­wright Bren­dan Fran­cis Behan. Let these words serve as your guid­ing light in the com­ing weeks, Scor­pio. They should inspire you to be brave enough to con­front the feel­ings of iso­la­tion that fes­ter in your depths. That will in turn moti­vate you to recon­nect with the parts of your psy­che you were cut off from dur­ing times of trau­ma and uncon­scious­ness in the past.

There are times when he is just spooky.

I was final­ly lis­ten­ing to some of the past poly­week­ly pod­casts in the car today, and some­thing that either cun­ning­minx or gray­dancer said keeps com­ing back to me. To para­phrase, it was about true inti­ma­cy always push­ing your boundaries. 

It feels true but paradoxical.

You can­not have healthy relationships—which are required for healthy intimacy—unless all par­ties involved have good bound­aries, and respect each oth­er’s boundaries.

So where’s the line between mov­ing for­ward toward being more inti­mate and respect­ing a per­son­’s boundaries?

I know that the recent breakup is cer­tain­ly part of the rea­son I feel dri­ven to con­tem­plate this issue. For the sec­ond time, I’ve found that a per­son with no active, per­son­al spir­i­tu­al life is total­ly inca­pable of inti­ma­cy. It’s cer­tain­ly a use­ful rule of thumb to use in judg­ing poten­tial SOs, as long as I remem­ber that an “active, per­son­al spir­i­tu­al life” can take many dif­fer­ent forms.

Def­i­nite­ly a top­ic for fur­ther consideration.