Okay, now I have to wonder.
What do you consider a secret? What do you share with whom? Do you consider anything said to you to be repeatable unless you’ve specifically been asked to keep it a secret? Is there anyone from whom you have no secrets at all?
I have no secrets from sambear. Anything said to me might as well be said to him. It’s reciprocal.
I don’t ever say something to anyone that I would want her to keep from her primary partner(s). Spouse, life partner, whatever—if it’s a serious, committed relationship, I figure that they have no secrets between them. So there are some things I cannot share with some friends because I don’t trust their primary partners as much as I trust them.
I don’t think girlfriends/boyfriends are in the same league, though. And I guess that could be tricky, because how I see someone’s relationship may be very different from how he sees that relationship. If the people are living together as something other than roommates, though, I assume it’s a primary partnership unless I’ve been told otherwise.
What are your rules?