Okay, dammit. sambear just informed me that he’d pimped me at PMM so I had to go look and see who he was talking about (turns out it’s an old friend—I found that very funny!).
So I end up browsing profiles for the first time in a long time, and I’m discovering a serious NEED for filtering OUT certain profiles. That is, in fact, far more important to me than any of the “I’m looking for” criteria. They don’t have selections for the things that are absolute make-or-breaks for me, anyway.
I don’t want to see anything that mentions dom*, sub* or sister-wife. Ever. And if it were possible to avoid every freakin’ idjit who’s looking for two or more women for a harem, I’d be really thrilled.
If you’re actually dominant, you don’t need to say so. I can’t respect anybody who would put him or herself out there as a submissive to any dweeb with ‘net access. I mean, how can you just “be submissive” to all and sundry? Yes, I know that some people do have a really strong bent to one side or the other IF they’re into that kind of thing at all, but I can’t take the labels very seriously at this point in my life.
Grumble. Grumble grumble. Grumble.
Edit: Browsing. Just browsing. I sent email to one couple just ’cause I know them and wanted to say hello—no wannas.