If a business owner asks another website owner to link to his site, that business presumably wishes to increase traffic in order to increase sales.
One presumes that the sites asked for links are those that look most likely to drive a fair amount of traffic to the business site.
Granting said link, even if offered a reciprocal link, is of no benefit to the owner of a purely personal site. One should note the lack of advertising or any attempt to make money from the site *before* contacting the owner.
Calling the site owner a bitch because she explains that the link does not fit the nature of her site is unwise. You see, she is all too likely to choose to use that same network of contacts you envied to spread the word that you are unprofessional, at the very least.
When one is in a relatively small industry with a shrinking market, especially when one’s business is young, word of mouth can be a great benefit or a great danger.
Saying, “Oh, I’m sorry, I take it back!” will not remove the stain you brought upon your reputation.
If the referenced clueless business person is reading this, don’t bother to contact me again. It will do you no good and could cause further harm. Let it go and learn from the experience.