Notes for Future Posts

I have sev­er­al thoughts run­ning around in my head that I need to write down so I’ll remem­ber to explore them more ful­ly later.

First—the lessons you learn from bad rela­tion­ships. That might be long, con­sid­er­ing the fact that the author has been through three divorces. That thought process was sparked by a brief dis­cus­sion with sam­bear about what a warn­ing sign it is to us when some­one has an LJ fil­ter set up so that hir SO(s) can­not read some of hir posts, but oth­ers can.

Second—because we’re poly, over­tures of friend­ship are too fre­quent­ly inter­pret­ed by peo­ple to mean some­thing sex­u­al instead of the gen­uine and sim­ple “I’d like to get to know you bet­ter” that they are. Hon­est­ly, folks, our dance cards are full—we are NOT com­ing on to you. We may flirt, we may want to get to know you better—but we are not, in fact, try­ing to get into your pants.