I have referred to The Man Diet several times as something I have done and recommend. After explaining it several times, I’ve decided to write it up here and just refer people to the article. I call it the Man…
Why have a web site at all?
Or at least, why put such personal information out there on the net for the world to see? I had previously said something on my main page about the net being the greatest vanity press ever invented, and I still…
What I Learned from My Past Relationships
So I actually heard from someone via Orkut. I can’t remember if that’s ever happened to me before or not. Anyway, I went to check out this person’s profile and realized mine was way out of date. Someday, I swear, I’m…
On Therapy, Again
The most screwed-up people I’ve ever encountered have also been those with the greatest aversion to the very idea of therapy. One, in fact, has a phobia of mental health professionals—for herself and for her children. That doesn’t mean that…
Therapy — What It Is, What It Isn’t, What It Means to Do It
In another journal, someone reacted to a suggestion that he seek therapy as if that were a terrible insult. It was obvious that he didn’t and wouldn’t consider that suggestion seriously. Therapy’s for crazy/unstable people I’ve certainly heard “you need…
Revisiting the April Divilbiss Case: Alternative lifestyles and encounters with the state
A nice lady wrote to me recently, provoked by my post about our DFCS experience. She wrote about it on her blog, too. The Divilbiss case was a topic of constant discussing in forums related to polyamory back in 1999.…
Article
This is take two of an article I wrote a few weeks back (when I had a brain!). It’s a companion piece to the one for college students with FMS—an introduction to FMS for educators. I’d appreciate feedback from anyone…
The Victim Culture
This began as a comment in a friend’s locked post. I’ve edited it a bit since this is public, but there’s something that has been on my mind since the flood of “No Pity, No Shame, No Silence” entries. As…
Moving Tips
I posted part of this as a comment in hopeevey’s journal, then decided to stick it here. Hopefully, I won’t have to learn these lessons yet again next time around. What have you learned that isn’t here yet? 1) Declutter! Establish…
Mine
My pain is mine. My process is mine. My grieving is not about anyone else. I have to process the grief and the pain and the nasty stuff that wells up from time to time. I know from experience that if…