Poll Answers Four

12) Why do you want to live with your loves?
There are many rea­sons. We’d be able to spend more time togeth­er cud­dling and play­ing and talk­ing (and prob­a­bly argu­ing, con­sid­er­ing all four per­son­al­i­ties). We’d spend less time and mon­ey trav­el­ing back and forth between each oth­er’s hous­es, and be more com­fort­able dur­ing our time togeth­er in a house cho­sen to accom­mo­date all of us. We’d be able to help each oth­er more in a con­crete sense with every­thing from child care and house­work to home­school­ing and revis­ing résumés and learn­ing to play the gui­tar. There were be some economies of scale in com­bin­ing the two house­holds and reduc­ing the resources allo­cat­ed to long-dis­tance com­mu­ni­ca­tions and gas and such. Hope­ful­ly, there would be few­er mis­com­mu­ni­ca­tions due to rely­ing on tele­phone and online inter­ac­tions as much as we do right now, too.

13) You said you were in a poly­fi­deli­tous rela­tion­ship because that’s what (they) want­ed. Do you resent that?
The only thing I real­ly resent is that sam­bear and anoth­er per­son who is very dear to both of us were on the verge of mov­ing their rela­tion­ship from friend­ship to some­thing more, and I’d like to see them able to explore that now if they both chose to do so. Oth­er than that—no. It isn’t any dif­fer­ent from us clos­ing our rela­tion­ship as a cou­ple for the first few years so that we could build a sol­id foun­da­tion for the future.