I am absolutely sick of seeing people on poly lists or other fora whinging about how unfair it is that they have to sneak around with their SOs. And, “oh, we’re in LUUURRRVVVE and just can’t squelch that!”
Clue: While you may not be able to control your feelings, you can most definitely control your actions. In fact, even 5‑year-olds can control their behavior and learn that being angry at Tommy does not have to translate to punching Tommy. This “but we’re in LUUURRRVVVE” shit is an excuse because you don’t WANT to keep it in your pants.
Cheating is not polyamory. Calling infidelity polyamory will not make it that any more than me calling myself a size 14 would suddenly enable me to fit into size 14 clothing. Go away and find your own goddamned places to hang out and whine to other unfaithful idiots about how tough your chosen row is to hoe. I’d suggest the name “Fuck-ups In Denial” myself.