Attachment Survey

Attach­ment sur­vey — very interesting.

Attach­ment Styles and Close Relationships
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Thank you for com­plet­ing the Close Rela­tion­ships Questionnaire/Experiences in Close Rela­tion­ships-Revised Ques­tion­naire. This ques­tion­naire is designed to mea­sure your attach­ment style—the way you relate to oth­ers in the con­text of inti­mate rela­tion­ships. As you might sus­pect, peo­ple dif­fer great­ly in the ways in which they approach close rela­tion­ships. For exam­ple, some peo­ple are com­fort­able open­ing up to oth­ers emo­tion­al­ly, where­as oth­ers are reluc­tant to allow them­selves to depend on others. 

Accord­ing to attach­ment the­o­ry and research, there are two fun­da­men­tal ways in which peo­ple dif­fer from one anoth­er in the way they think about rela­tion­ships. First, some peo­ple are more anx­ious than oth­ers. Peo­ple who are high in attach­ment-relat­ed anx­i­ety tend to wor­ry about whether their part­ners real­ly love them and often fear rejec­tion. Peo­ple low on this dimen­sion are much less wor­ried about such mat­ters. Sec­ond, some peo­ple are more avoidant than oth­ers. Peo­ple who are high in attach­ment-relat­ed avoid­ance are less com­fort­able depend­ing on oth­ers and open­ing up to others. 

Accord­ing to your ques­tion­naire respons­es, your attach­ment-relat­ed anx­i­ety score is 1.56, on a scale rang­ing from 1 (low anx­i­ety) to 7 (high anx­i­ety). Your attach­ment-relat­ed avoid­ance score is 1.39, on a scale rang­ing from 1 (low avoid­ance) to 7 (high avoidance). 

We have plot­ted your two scores in the two-dimen­sion­al space defined by attach­ment-relat­ed anx­i­ety and avoid­ance. Your approx­i­mate posi­tion in this space is denot­ed by the blue dot. (Note: If you left any of the ques­tions unan­swered, then these scores will be inaccurate.) 

As you can see in this graph, the two dimen­sions of anx­i­ety and avoid­ance can be com­bined to cre­ate inter­est­ing com­bi­na­tions of attach­ment styles. For exam­ple, peo­ple who are low in both attach­ment-relat­ed anx­i­ety and avoid­ance are gen­er­al­ly con­sid­ered secure because they don’t typ­i­cal­ly wor­ry about whether their part­ners are going to reject them and they are com­fort­able being emo­tion­al­ly close to others.

Com­bin­ing your anx­i­ety and avoid­ance scores, you fall into the secure quad­rant. Pre­vi­ous research on attach­ment styles indi­cates that secure peo­ple tend to have rel­a­tive­ly endur­ing and sat­is­fy­ing rela­tion­ships. They are com­fort­able express­ing their emo­tions and tend not to suf­fer from depres­sion and oth­er psy­cho­log­i­cal disorders.

I’m rea­son­ably cer­tain that if I’d tak­en the same sur­vey pre-Sam, the results would have been MUCH different.

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Cyn is Rick's wife, Katie's Mom, and Esther & Oliver's Mémé. She's also a professional geek, avid reader, fledgling coder, enthusiastic gamer (TTRPGs), occasional singer, and devoted stitcher.
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