The Hard Questions
The Hard Questions contains 100 essential questions to ask the one you love. Ranging in subject from money, sex, children, home, religion, work, food, and friends, answering these questions is a way of creating a deep and lasting commitment.
The Hard Questions were compiled by Susan Piver at the time of her engagement to her husband, Duncan. She loved him, she loved being in a relationship with him, but she wasn’t sure how to make the transition to marriage, to being a wife. After all, marriage is different than simply being in a relationship—and over half of them fail. Why? She examined her past relationships and realized that none of them had failed due to lack of love—they had failed due to lack of love of their life together. So she began compiling questions about the life they would share. One by one, she and Duncan answered these questions and were alternately delighted, appalled, infuriated, and/or mystified by each other’s responses. In each case, they learned something valuable about the other. These questions became the basis for this book.
I’m going to request it from the library. It almost certainly has a monogamous focus, but it sounds like the material would be useful to anyone in any kind of relationship.