I’m not avoiding my mother, but I get tense when I see her on my caller ID lately.
We tend to stay in touch by email more than by phone, and if she calls it usually means that there’s something that can’t wait on email. We’ve lost five members of our extended family since October 2. We had absolutely no warning with two of those people. One was a young teen.
So as much as I love my mother, every time I pick up the phone to talk to her now I’m expecting bad news.