As many oth­er peo­ple have observed, com­mon cour­tesy isn’t nec­es­sar­i­ly com­mon. Over the last five years, I have observed that many of my con­tem­po­raries seem to have gap­ing holes in their under­stand­ing of eti­quette. While I do not con­sid­er myself any kind of author­i­ty, and I know that I do not have any grasp of tru­ly for­mal eti­quette at all, I find it dif­fi­cult to under­stand some of the behav­iors that seem all too com­mon.

While I did­n’t take any­one but my daugh­ter (and the for­mer step­kids) to raise, and it is not, there­fore, my place to teach social acquain­tances how to behave, my life would be more pleas­ant if some of those peo­ple were to change their behav­ior. Unfor­tu­nate­ly, those who are most like­ly to offend are also least like­ly to real­ize that they have prob­lems or seek to change. Rather than sim­ply exclud­ing them from my life (as I will do if their offens­es are fre­quent and/or egre­gious), I decid­ed to make some small attempt at help­ing peo­ple who wish to change.

I orig­i­nal­ly pub­lished all three of these arti­cles on my Live­Jour­nal, and request­ed com­ments from friends. I am indebt­ed to them for their con­tri­bu­tions.

Last updat­ed July 27, 2015

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