How do you decide where to live?

Over the last two years, Sam and I have talked about mov­ing else­where. Geor­gia has almost no con­sumer pro­tec­tions for cit­i­zens, has a crappy sup­port struc­ture for humans in just about every way you can imag­ine, and has law enforce­ment who don’t care to enforce laws unless you’ve got enough money to get their atten­tion. Essen­tially, we want to live in a blue state, which means leav­ing the Bible belt. Cooler weather would be nice, too. Less humid heat, at least, would be a relief.

We haven’t really made plans, not want­ing to uproot Katie while she was in school and so on. There’s a lot of iner­tia, too, since I’ve been here all my life (except for the few years in Alabama before my par­ents moved us to Atlanta). Sam was born here, and wasn’t thrilled with New York or New Jer­sey when he lived there. Our fam­i­lies are here, which means some­thing, even if we don’t see them that often.
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Musical Memories

Fol­low­ing Bill (fossilapostle’s) lead, I’ll play along with the “music meme” that’s mak­ing the rounds.

Go to Pop Cul­ture Mad­ness and check out the songs from the year in which you turned 18 (1984 for me, if any­one cares). Bold the songs you like(d). Under­line or strike the songs you didn’t/don’t. I’m ital­i­ciz­ing the ones I’m mostly okay with Like Bill, I’m just leav­ing the ones I don’t have any strong feel­ing about alone. Most of those, hon­estly, I just don’t remem­ber. I’d prob­a­bly react I heard them instead of just read­ing their names.

A lot of peo­ple my age seem to remem­ber the songs of the 80s by their videos. Our fam­ily didn’t have cable TV, and I wasn’t a big TV watcher any way, so I didn’t see most of the videos that went with these songs.

1. Thriller — Michael Jack­son — It was num­ber 1? For the year?!! I’ve never been in step with pop cul­ture. Ever. I still haven’t seen the video.
2. Girls Just Wanna Have Fun — Cyndi Lau­per
3. Foot­loose — Kenny Log­gins
4. Like A Vir­gin — Madonna
5. Hol­i­day — Madonna
6. I Can’t Drive 55 — Sammy Hagar
7. Pride (In The Name Of Love) — U2
8. Jam On It — New­cleus
9. Legs — ZZ Top
10. What’s Love Got To Do With It — Tina Turner
11. Time After Time — Cyndi Lau­per
12. Lucky Star — Madonna
13. Danc­ing In The Dark — Bruce Spring­steen
14. Cruel Sum­mer — Bana­narama
15. She Bop — Cyndi Lau­per — I absolutely refuse to believe that it’s about that. No. I won’t.
16. Let’s Hear It For The Boy — Denise Williams
17. Teacher Teacher — 38 Spe­cial
18. Stay With Me Tonight — Jef­frey Osborne
19. Pur­ple Rain — Prince
20. I Will Fol­low — U2
21. Miss Me Blind — Cul­ture Club
22. I Feel For You — Chaka Kahn
23. Heart Of Rock and Roll — Huey Lewis and the News
24. Karma Chameleon — Cul­ture Club
25. Let’s Stay Together — Tina Turner
26. Eat It — Wierd Al Yan­covic — wow, he’s been around a long time, hasn’t he?
27. Bor­der­line — Madonna
28. We’re Not Gonna Take It — Twisted Sis­ter
29. Let’s Go Crazy — Prince
30. Let The Music Play — Shan­non
31. Cover Me — Bruce Spring­steen
32. Hold­ing Out For A Hero — Bon­nie Tyler
33. Run­away — Bön Jovi
34. Rock You Like A Hur­ri­cane — Scor­pi­ons
35. Somebody’s Watch­ing Me — Rock­well
36. Remem­ber The Nights — The Motels
37. Jump — Van Halen
38. I Want A New Drug — Huey Lewis and the News
39. Bang Your Head (Men­tal Health) — Quiet Riot
40. 99 Luft­bal­lons — Nena
41. White Horse — Laid Back
42. Wake Me Up Before You Go Go — Wham
43. Mama We’re All Crazee Now — Quiet Riot
44. Caribbean Queen — Billy Ocean
45. I Wanna Rock — Twisted Sis­ter
46. Jump (For My Love) — Pointer Sis­ters
47. Ya Mo Be There — James Ingram
48. Rebel Yell — Billy Idol
49. Against All Odds — Phil Collins
50. Bet­ter Be Good To Me — Tina Turner
51. Sis­ter Chris­t­ian — Night Ranger
52. 10−9−8 — Face to Face
53. Ille­gal Alien — Gen­e­sis
54. It’s My Life — Talk Talk
55. Look At That Cadil­lac — Stray Cats — odd, I rather liked them but can’t remem­ber this song at all
56. When Doves Cry — Prince
57. Hard Habit To Break — Chicago
58. I Just Called To Say I Love You — Ste­vie Won­der
59. Tak­ing It All Too Hard — Gen­e­sis
60. No Park­ing (On The Dance Floor) — Midnight Star
61. Hot For Teacher — Van Halen
62. High Energy — Eve­lyn Thomas
63. Superstar/​Until You Come Back To Me — Luthor Van­dross
64. The Longest Time — Billy Joel
65. To All The Girls I’ve Loved Before — Julio Igle­sias and Willie Nel­son
66. On The Dark Side — John Caf­ferty and the Beaver Brown Band
67. State of Shock — Jack­sons and Mick Jag­ger — they did some­thing together?
68. Miss­ing You — John Waite
69. Mid­night Maniac — Krokus
70. Blue Light — David Gilmour
71. Freak­show On The Dance­floor — Bar-​​Kays — who the heck is that?
72. A Girl In Trou­ble (Is A Tem­po­rary Thing) — Romeo Void
73. You’re The Best Thing — The Style Coun­cil
74. Love Kills — Fred­die Mer­cury
75. Sex Shooter — Apol­lo­nia 6 — huh?

If they’d asked about con­tem­po­rary Chris­t­ian music of the time, I’d remem­ber more. I was singing all the time at church back then, and con­stantly look­ing for new material.

To be hon­est, I didn’t remem­ber a whole lot of the peo­ple at my high school reunion, even though it had only been five years since we’d grad­u­ated. As peo­ple came over and greeted us, I read their nametags, played the small talk game, and kept turn­ing to the girl­friend who attended with me and hus­band v.2 say­ing, “Are you sure he/​she went to school with us? Absolutely?” (They knew who I was — one ben­e­fit of being the vale­dic­to­rian and being involved in a bunch of extracur­ric­u­lars, plus hav­ing a best friend who has never met a stranger. At least she remem­bered all of them!) That’s part of why I didn’t bother going to the other reunions we’ve had since then. Sadly, I’m doing bet­ter with the songs than I did with the peo­ple, sta­tis­ti­cally speaking.

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