What I Believe
A while back I attended a three-week "Getting to Know UU" discussion group, for those who are considering joining a Unitarian Universalist congregation (and I did join the congregation). At the beginning of the meeting we were all asked to introduce ourselves and explain how we arrived there--sort of a brief spiritual autobiographical sketch. I don't think I've ever tried to present it as a logical A to B journey before, or even to think of it that way. Still, as it often happens, answering someone else's questions taught me things I didn't realize I knew.
I'd already been meditating on just who I am, what I believe, and what I want to accomplish in this life. If I died today, how would I want my daughter and other loved ones to remember me? What would I want them to know about what I thought, hoped, believed, wished for, and why? I'm finding that being a parent makes me far more conscious of time, and of planning for the future, than I was before. My mother has always said, "Twenty years from now, who will know the difference?" when one of us was obsessing over some minor issue. I'm coming to better appreciate her perspective.
Some things cannot be adequately expressed in words, but must be lived on a daily basis. Still, my words are an important part of who I am, and I feel some need to try to express my beliefs through them. By publishing them, perhaps I'll find like-minded souls with whom to strike up a dialogue, or perhaps they'll at least provoke contemplation in those who read them. I do not claim to be wise, nor do I claim to express any eternal truths. My beliefs and values have evolved throughout my life, and I expect them to continue to do so as long as I exist - I abhor stagnation.
So…I'm a pagan. I'm also a Unitarian Universalist - and no, there isn't any conflict between being UU and pagan. There's even a Covenant of UU Pagans. It isn't easy to explain what being UU means in a couple of words, as there's a lot of diversity within our association. We're a non-creedal religious group. What we do agree on is expressed in the UU Principles and Purposes. The UUA Bookstore has a rather nice article that's also informative, We are Unitarian Universalists. Beyond the principles and purposes, you'll find that there are Christian, Jewish, Buddhist, atheist, and (obviously) pagan UUs.
I believe that everyone has the right to determine his or her own beliefs and the freedom to follow the path those beliefs dictate. Groups like the Moral Majority and the Christian Coalition are welcome to their views, but the fact that they try to impose those views on everyone else is absolutely wrong. That's why I got involved with the Greater Atlanta Interfaith Alliance. It's also one of the reasons I'm a Unitarian Universalist - because it permits me to be part of a community of faith that welcomes and affirms people of all paths, and gives my child exposure to those paths in a positive way. I want her to have the information to make a fully informed decision about her own path when she's old enough to do so - I will not make the mistake my parents made of trying to force her to follow my own path.
I believe that for every right in this life there is a
responsibility, and that only a fool tries to exercise one without
fulfilling the other.
I believe that I am responsible for myself. Nobody owes me a living, a job, medical care, housing, food or the time of day. The corollary is that nobody has the right to tell me how to live my life unless my actions cause harm to others--I can swing my arms all I like unless they hit someone else's nose. I ask nothing but the opportunity to enjoy my "life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness" and give others that same consideration. Whatever I achieve or acquire as a result of my efforts is, therefore, mine to use as I please, whether I wish to keep it, use it, spend it, or give it away. No one else has the right to take my property, whether they call it "taxation" or more honest theft. That probably explains why I'm a libertarian. And why extreme right-wingers, extreme leftists, and even extreme centrists scare me.
I happen to think it's too stupid for words to put substances in your body that cause you to lose control of yourself, like drugs and alcohol. I don't associate with anyone who abuses such substances, but I think it's their right to engage in their stupidity without my interference. On the flip side, I don't consider "but he was drunk" to be an excuse for anyone's bad behavior, and support an absolutely zero-tolerance stance on crimes like driving while intoxicated (one offense, one jail stay, don't pass go, don't collect $200). I do think the "war on drugs" is actually an excuse for the government to chip away at our freedom, and I'm wholly against it.
I believe that because I've exercised my right to bring a child into this world, I must fulfill my responsibilities by providing for and educating my child until she is an adult - and doing my best to see that she grows into being a responsible adult. I believe that being a parent is both one of the greatest rights and one of the most immense responsibilities any person will ever experience. I'll admit to being pretty judgemental about people based on how they parent and how their children behave - I choose not to spend time with people who don't parent well, because their children are generally little monsters. I realized some time back that I don't "like" children any more than I "like" any other particular group of people. I enjoy the company of intelligent, well-behaved people, and don't like to be around noisy, rude or stupid people - no matter how old they are.
I believe that I am responsible for protecting myself, my family, and my property. It is my right to use force in responding to threats to our safety.
I judge people by their words, deeds and abilities, rather than by their appearances, ancestry (race, ethnicity, etc.), gender, sexual preference or religion. I ask that the same factors be used in judging me. The entrenched bigotry of the churches in which I was raised was one of the biggest reason I left all organized religion for many years. I refuse to be part of sexism, racism, homophobia, religious discrimination, or anti-intellectual campaigns, or to be associated with any organization that promotes those evils. I believe that laws that exist solely to enforce religious standards on those of us who do not share those religious beliefs are inexcusable and ludicrous. Prohibitions against marriages between consenting adults of any sexes, and Georgia's ridiculous sex laws are just two of the examples that come to mind immediately.
I believe that the more love one gives to others, the more you receive. I don't know if Spider Robinson said it first or was quoting someone else, but to quote him, "Shared joy is multiplied, shared sorrow is divided."
Last updated January 20, 2001
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