Etiquette

As many other peo­ple have observed, com­mon cour­tesy isn’t nec­es­sar­ily com­mon. Over the last five years, I have observed that many of my con­tem­po­raries seem to have gap­ing holes in their under­stand­ing of eti­quette. While I do not con­sider myself any kind of author­ity, and I know that I do not have any grasp of truly for­mal eti­quette at all, I find it dif­fi­cult to under­stand some of the behav­iors that seem all too common.

While I didn’t take any­one but our three kids to raise, and it is not, there­fore, my place to teach social acquain­tances how to behave, my life would be more pleas­ant if some of those peo­ple were to change their behav­ior. Unfor­tu­nately, those who are most likely to offend are also least likely to real­ize that they have prob­lems or seek to change. Rather than sim­ply exclud­ing them from my life (as I will do if their offenses are fre­quent and/​or egre­gious), I decided to make some small attempt at help­ing peo­ple who wish to change.

I orig­i­nally pub­lished all three of these arti­cles in my blog, and requested com­ments from friends. I am indebted to them for their contributions.

Last updated August 9, 2003

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